British Student in London - Oneitis, British girls, and new to PUA.

Hi guys.

Im very new to PUA. I was obsessed with this girl I was dating for a couple of months last years, and after we broke up (‘im not ready for a relationship’) I was crushed. She said she wasn't ready for a relationship as she had just arrived at uni and just broken up with he ex. A mate of mine told me about the community and the mistakes I had probably made with her and encouraged me to read 'The Game'. I did so and since then i’ve searched the forums and have an understanding of alot of the ideas. (I am failing with implementation though).

I‘ll be honest, I find it difficult at my university in London to be successful with this. I know im new to your world and it can take a long time (I guess you’re always learning anyway) but I need some pointers guys!!

Is there anything specific with British university girls that mean these techniques need to be altered? They seem to be alot harder to impress and alot colder to being approached – even those who are not amazingly attractive act as though they are. I go clubbing alot (mainly on student nights) but I struggle with opening sets. My success over the last 2months has been been dating 4 girls each one I met at a club but we ‘bumped’ into each other at the bars. Part of me feels as though it was just general confidence which helped me with them - thus my new understanding that a club/bar/any venue is just a social dynamic which is winnable has made the whole thing seem less scary.

Im usually pretty confident – have lots of friends and am ‘well known’ at uni – but have a real ‘nice guy’ image. I’m cracking jokes all the time and am very ‘sweet’. I need to know how to publicly change my image. Not drastically, but to be seen as a ‘man’ rather than the ‘funny guy’. I hope this makes sense to you all.

Im writing this really because I bumped into the girl I was seeing last year, yesterday at a coffee shop on campus. We talked for like 20 mins and it was comfortable but it was so general a conersation. I froze in my head, didn’t know how to show I was still really interested, or even if I should. It just reminded me how she got away and that sort of dented my confidence – she was my oneitis, and although I feel there is a chance we could get back together (any tips would be great) I need to know how to fully move on – the only way to do so im guessing is to get out there and meet women!!