Framing

Hey Ryanator,

I've noticed that there are an increasing number of guys getting into the community. Many of which are ravaged by AA. Also alot of these new guys are young high school kids. Most of which due to the constant mind-set of a lack of self-confidence and esteem need to learn this. The concept I'm going to present is a base to start of with. Almost everyone who has got into pick-up has had AA and it takes awhile to get over it.


So, I'm presenting you new guys with a guide to "Frame Control".


First of all; frame control is the idea that you control your own state of mind and that of the group you are in. This is a key benchmark in pick-up no matter what method you use. If you don't have frame control you will be thrown aside and discarded by females and males alike. What I now present to you are the ailments of a lack of frame control, and some ways to rid yourself of them.


 Social Shyness - the lack of self-confidence in social situations. Social shyness is is debilating thought process. Many men possess this due to lack of socialization with people. To those of you that are beaten by social shyness, there is hope. To become a more social person, look at what you do in your free time. Are you a keyboard-jocky? A momma's boy who stays at home? Do you do anything fun outside of your home? If you fall into any of these categories, then something has to change. Take up active hobbies or group based activities. Take up surfing, snowboarding, inter-mural sports, skiing; basically anything that gets you out of the house. Activities that put you in situations to be around other people and socialize. Humans by nature are social, just because you haven't lead a social life up to now doesn't mean you can't change. Once you develop a more fun and active lifestyle you then can proceed to work on your inner-game. 


Inner-Game - the mindset of believe you are a cool fun person and are deserving of other people's attention, mastery of the self. Inner-game is a major need to be successful in pick-up, and life for that matter. To master yourself and become confident takes a few different concepts to master. The first part of inner-game is your self-confidence. Do you believe you are worth a woman's time? If you don't then listen up. There are a few different ways to address the need to gain more self-confidence. If you have already created a more social and active lifestyle this will be alot easier. Many guys on this website will tell you that self-confidence can be gained through trial & error. Others will say that you should just walk around town for a few weeks wearing abnormal clothing - a poncho and a hockey masked with a dildo attached to it. There is also the self-confidence building programs such as; Ross Jefferies'-Unstoppable Confidence, Hypnotica's Collection of Confidence, and David DeAngelo's Deep Inner Game. All of these are legitamite ways of developing self-confidence. You must find what works for you. What ever way you choose, is doesn't realy matter. But you need the self-confince to get anywhere with women. As David DeAngelo put it; "Evict your inner wussy". 


After you have destroyed your low self-confidence its time to exam your AA. AA ( Aproach Anxiety) - the anxiety that one has before opening a set. Everyone has this, even MPUAs have it, its human nature to possess a level of anxiety before talking to someone you don't know. Once you have a sense of self-confidence this concept should be easy to deal with. 


FUCK THE VOICE IN YOUR HEAD, GO UP IN SAY SOMETHING. DON'T THINK JUST ACT. 


The more time you spend thinking about an approach, the more you are fucking up. Just do it. If you have the self-confidence, then the only way to break your AA is through continious approachs. Practice makes perfect. There is no such thing as the perfect opener. Walk up and say one of the openers you prepared for the night. Simple. There is only one more major hurdle you must overcome to have great game. 


Control the Set - being able to control the mindset and path of conversation in a set. This is where the crutch of canned-material hurts you. Canned-material is a great way to get quick attention and DHV. However, if you are in sets and once you have done your routines, and your mind runs blank, you are screwed. The only way to break this is to become a good conversationalist. If you are limited to your canned-material you are just a social-robot. This is a very bad state of mind. To better conversational skills be up to date on cultural and social knowledge. Be able to talk about stupid shit like whats going on in Hollywood. Anything, is better than silence. 


Also by showing that you are knowledgable about worldy events you are DHVing. All of the above concepts and ideas compiled together create Frame Control. "You are a master in your own world, or a slave in society's" This is my personal quote. It covers the whole scope of frame control. If you can't master yourself then you will never achieve anything with women and/or in life. These concepts above do not just pertain to pick-up. By having an active lifestyle, you are a more healthy person. You have fun things to do, and places to bring girls for adventorous dates. By having self-confidence and being a conversationalist you are improving your work life. You will be able to deal with people in the work environment on a much higher level. 


I hope all who read this for can take something away from it. I also would like to extend my services to all of you out there who want help with frame control. If you have any questions let me know I would be happy to help.

I wish you all the BEST.
Vision
PS Thank's Adam Lyon