How to break up
Hey guys,
I am not sure if this was posted before, didn't do any search in the forum to be frank, but I was wondering how do you break up with a girl, properly, like a man, I have read this article http://artofmanliness.com/2008/12/16/how-to-break-up/ which I believe it is satisfying on the being there "mentally and physically" part.
The reason I want to break up with her, is because we are having a good time, but I feel guilty about it. The girl is far more experienced than I am, because she is 6 years older than me (I know, but she had this flare of energy that attracted me to her, again attraction isn't a choice) anyway back to the reason for break up, we are having a good time, but in my vision, she has no role in my path.
We did jump ahead in the dating regime, I am unconventional, and I do not love behaving the same manner as anyone would, which made her a tit needy. What got me worried is after only few dates she have spoken about me to her mother, talking to her friends I wouldn't mind that, I do that, but I haven't mentioned her to my family members because like I said it is not serious.
I have spoken to her since day one, that this might not have a happy ending, we accepted that, and we agreed that we will just enjoy ourselves, while it lasts, but with the whole issue of meeting her parents, so soon, it is just terrifying, and I do not want to, for my sake if not hers, to come off as a jerk.
A close friend of mine, she suggested, that a break up is a break up, you can't be gentle, fine, agreed, but she said so she can forget you and get past you, you need to at least show her that you are a jerk (by dating other girls) I believe, that as my role of a man, that I should be as respectful as possible, I might be wrong, but this is my path.
I am not seeking anyone's approval, it is just a mental image of my future self that I am trying to reach.
Maybe I should just get balls, and tell her with a straight face that we can not see each other any more before it develops any further.
I am waiting for your reply,
Arsalan
lol, somehow it feels less urgent, I guess I got scared, because I am liking this girl, and yeah, too afraid of a commitment I suppose, anyway, but it is still a good topic to be mentioned.
I don't want to go into details, but I broke up with her, I sat down with her, and that was after Christmas dinner, (not a nice timing at all, but had to be done, with more time spent together more pain would be added) all I can say is to you guys, treat a lady as a lady, she is human being, I am glad I met her, and I loved her back the same way she loved me.
My honest opinion, that some of the PUAs out there are just immature and trying to nail a girl, rather than have a good time, and know where they are heading. I could be wrong, but everyone has his own path to follow.
Arsalan
