How To Get Back With Your Ex Girlfriend
Hey Guys
Before I started in PICKUP I was your typical AFC (average frustrated chump).
I had been married for about 5 years and that did not go great so when I started dating again I was soooooooooo lost that I could not open a envelope LOL.
So I dated this one girl and I was soooooooo needy I drove her away.
So when I heard David DeAngelo (David is like one of the GRANDFATHERS OF PICK UP and his stuff is great) talk about getting back ways to get back with your EX my ears poked up.
So read on.
So, let’s start with the definition of the word WUSSY…
This word is a combination of the words “Wimp” and another word that starts with P, has a next letter of U, then two of the letter S and finally a letter Y.
In other words, a Wussy (or Wuss), is a guy who tends to behave in a wimpish, submissive, needy, way.
The opposite of a Wussy is Maximus during his first arena fight scene in the movie Gladiator.
The problem with being a Wussy is that women are NOT ATTRACTED TO WEAKNESS… and thus, they are NEVER attracted to WUSSIES.
Never.
Ever.
Ever.
A woman might MARRY a Wussy because he’s either the best she can get, has a lot of money, has courted her for so many years that she finally gives in, or whatever…
But, she’ll never feel ATTRACTION for him.
Women don’t CHOOSE who they feel ATTRACTION for, and they don’t choose the emotions that they feel either.
It just HAPPENS. Bam!
One problem that a lot of guys have to face is TURNING INTO a Wussy over time…
When you start off on the right foot, then gradually turn into a Wuss over time with a woman, that emotion called ATTRACTION starts to go away inside of her.
A woman will tell her friends “I don’t know what it is…but for some reason lately he’s just annoying to be around.” etc.
It BOTHERS and ANGERS women when a man that’s interested in them acts like a WUSSY. In many women it actually triggers these emotions just like dominant behavior triggers ATTRACTION.
Of course, the worse things get, and the more annoyed a woman becomes, the more like a total WUSSBAG most guys act.
It’s one of those “vicious cycles” that usually ends with the woman leaving and the guy sitting there wondering what he did wrong… and him thinking that maybe, if he had just been able to tell her just how much he loved her, that she would not have left him for that other abusive jerk.
By the way, if you want to learn how to DE- WUSSIFY yourself for good, and become a man that is universally attractive to women, then you must go and read this before you read any further:
OK, so let’s talk about your specific questions:
1. “How do you interpret her behavior? Is she still interested somehow or what?”
I interpret her behavior as NATURAL and VERY, VERY PREDICTABLE.
If you do it again in the future, the same thing will probably happen.
Is she still interested?
Yes, she is.
But not in anything more than being your FRIEND.
You have, with your actions and communication, KILLED the ATTRACTION that she felt for you.
This is something you’re going to have to deal with and take responsibility for.
You turned into a Wuss, and now you’re paying the price.
You have to come to terms with your Inner Wuss before improvement can begin.
2. “Is there – according your experience – any realistic chance to get her back, i.e. to trigger again her interest and attraction?”
Well, this is a sticky question.
There is a CHANCE, yes.
But here’s the problem. Probably 90% of the time when I tell a guy exactly what to do in order to get a girl back, he screws it up… doesn’t do it exactly the way I say, etc.
And, of course, he makes things worse in the process.
THE PROBLEM
Focusing on getting her back will not only lessen the chances, but it will keep you from moving on in your life.The best thing for you to do is MOVE ON in your life.
Ironically, the way to give yourself the best chances of getting her back is to NOT TRY… instead, go date other women, and be scarce in her life.
In other words, you’re never going to make her feel any ATTRACTION for you again by staying in touch, being her friend, and being “nice”… and by trying to “win her over” again.
It would be nice if things worked that way, but they don’t.
Now, why do guys chase women, and keep doing the WRONG things… even after a woman has left?
In our dealings with women, we guys tend to think things like “That’s not fair” and “I did all the right things” and to feel self-righteous because we’re the good guy… but miss the point and not get the RESULTS we want.
Remember though…
Attraction isn’t FAIR, it isn’t “right”, it doesn’t care how “nice” you are. Attraction can be cruel and painful sometimes.
You know, the irony of your situation is that this girl was probably just as bummed-out as you were about this whole thing happening.
Women HATE it when guys turn into Wussies.
I know, I know… she did things that made you turn into more and more of a Wuss. It’s her fault too… right?
Wrong.
Women do this stuff to TEST you.
They’re not actually TRYING to turn you into a Wuss. But if you DO turn into a Wuss, she realizes that she can’t trust you to be a man and she has to go.
Now, she’s not doing this to hurt you, she’s only doing it because she wasn’t getting the feelings that she wanted with you… and now she’s getting them with Jerk-Boy.
THE SOLUTION
As I mentioned, your best bet in this situation is to MOVE ON. Get on with it.Most importantly, start dating OTHER WOMEN IMMEDIATELY.
Not in a few days, and not next week. NOW.
And, stop calling your ex. Stop responding to her quickly. Stop being her WUSS-FRIEND.
It’s obvious that the LAST thing you want is to wind up “just being friends” with her… so STOP DOING IT.
Next time she calls, tell her you have a date over at the house, or you’re leaving to meet a woman. Of course, make sure IT’S TRUE, like I said.
Stop being so AVAILABLE.
Get busy enjoying your life.
Get busy dating other women.
If you find yourself thinking about her and wanting to hear her voice, BITCH-SLAP yourself. If you’re feeling weak, have a friend do it.
And when you do wind up talking to her, say the following:
“Hey, calling for more therapy? No-can-do… I have to run to the gym to get in shape for my hot date on Friday…”
You feel me, dog?
And remember…
In this world, “I was a nice guy and did nice things for her” doesn’t cut it. Attraction has a totally different set of rules… and exceptions. And if you want to get and keep an attractive woman, then you’d better learn them.
It’s a skill, and you’re not going to get it by being “nice” and doing everything your mom taught you…
If a woman feels ATTRACTION for a man, she’ll do almost anything to stay with him. If she DOESN’T feel it, then the chances are slim that she’ll stay around.
These rules are even MORE TRUE when you’re dealing with an ATTRACTIVE woman who gets a lot of attention from guys.
The irony of this situation is that I think it’s a lot easier to make a woman feel ATTRACTION than it is to be a Wuss who chases after her, buys her things, and annoys the hell out of her.
I spent a lot of years of my life being a Wuss.
I made all the classic mistakes.
I should probably be awarded an honorary degree in the subject… really.
But, over the last several years I’ve not only learned how to cure myself and evict my Inner Wuss… I’ve also learned how to make women feel ATTRACTION with my body language and communication alone.
I only wish someone would have shown me this stuff fifteen years ago…
If you’re reading this right now and it’s time that you evicted your inner Wussy, and learned how to make women feel ATTRACTION for you without chasing them, buying them things, and giving all of your power away, then listen up…
THE TIME IS NOW.
This stuff isn’t going to fix itself.
And you know by now that more of the same is only going to get you more of the same.
So thats it guys I hope that helps
I wish you all the BEST
Vision
about ex-girlfriends. i'm in a situation.My buddy is having one of his girls crash at the place and I kinda want her and know i can make it happen. but really don't know if i should. If i do should I tell him or wait for him to find out.
Its getting interesting like she stopped sleeping in his room and would hang out in the living room with me all night eventually we'd crash on the sofa. at first i thought it was because he played video games all night and she wanted to watch tv but even when hes watching a movie or whatever she comes to hang out with me and we termed ourselves late night movie buddies. then she started saying she can't stand him playing video games all day but wouldn't say anything to him.Just little complaints and then I started getting iois.
what makes it worst is when i got back my buddy skipped 4 days of work so i wouldnt be alone with her during the day.And he got fired.so if i do it its like a bigger slap in the face
last night i started qualifying her got good responses but one that still bother me is when i asked something like "what do you consider a guy out of your league" she said alot of guys are and she said in a relationship she feels she has to be someone else like do things differently, then she said she was still waiting for my buddy to ask himself why he is with her when he can do better" but she do admits he makes her feel like shit, and i started pointing it out. i feel douchy her and i went to see new moon together and i started playing the whole corny date thing and cuddled with her through the movie there was a window to go in for the kiss but i didnt.
At this point i feel I need to make a choice become the friend or steal her from him.
Hey Ineedattention,
Well this is really a NO BRAINER
Have you ever seen the movie 'TRANSFORMERS'
There is a classic line in that film that will tell you what to do................it goes like this. "Bro's before Hoo's."
Now with that said let me break something down for you.
When you start to become good at PICK UP you will notice that there are and abundance of women in your life.
What I found was that it was much harder to find are really good guy friends.
My personal opinion is to to ask yourself, how would your buddy feel if he knew your were trying to pick up his girl.
Do you want to sacrfice a friendship?
I hope that HELP'S
I wish you all the BEST
Vision
Thanks alotvision. took me awhile to read this but i decided to do that anyway. things got alittle complicated when he broke up with her.But another buddy begged me not to do it. Cool thing is I backed off started being weird, then she gets her friend to invite me to a party.The whole night was kinda intense me and her just hanging out with her friends ,then we came back she was a little drunk I was somewhat buzzed but i jus said fuck it and went to sleep. But i keep thinking WHAT IF.
how do you get her back ,if it is that your religion became a problem,
