PUAs in Chicago
Well, We're AFCs in Chicago to be honest. I am Stark. I suffer from AA. I thought I had taken care of it but, I guess not. My body goes numb whenever I want to approach a women. Especially with Direct Approaching. I am too self-conscious about my looks and no matter what clothes I wear, I keep thinking I don't look good enough. Even though I was a model.
Anyway, I am 19. College student. I'd take your personal coaching program if I had the money. And I know there isn't a fast track to puadom. But, I want wings in Chicago that can push me and I can push them. For now at least.
DayGame is the only thing I want to do right now. So, can you recommend some good places to sarge?
Anyway, thanks. I'm Stark. Enjoy~
@stark 1
Dude, you're 19 yrs old. My piece of advice, dive in while you still can. I'm a Filipino and a computer geek but women doesn't know because I dress up like a rockstar. My friend who is a computer geek also cried he's heart out because the woman that she like recently had a boyfriend. He feels sorry for himself because he never had the guts to say what he feels. Take risks my stark1, you will never know what will happen until you try. Don't assume.
Another "life experience" that I had was when I was in grade school and there was this girl who's like the "campus crush" and I was like the solo flight, quiet type guy in campus. On the 5th grade I took the risk of telling her that I like her, it turned out that she liked it. She said she never thought of a quiet type of guy would have a guts to come to her and say that I like her. I was like "wow!", I never thought that she'd like that I just took the risk. Oh, by the way... she has a boyfriend that time.
Take the risk (^^,)
Heya Stark1
It's been a while since I've had AA... The same method doesn't work for everybody, but maybe this helps a bit. I was always naturally outgoing, but as soon as I saw "a girl" i got all panicked and choked. I found that dropping myself in the deep end of the pool, trying to open 30 sets a night just got me drowning much quicker than usual. That's when a good AFC buddy of mine told me that "whatever you're into, it's taking over your life man. What happened to the guy we used to know?"
Most guys who get involved in PUA would see this as a compliment or a sign of some growth, but I thought about it and realised that the social skills I was learning weren't some magic power to bedazzle the hottest girls into my bed on the weekends. Unfortunately if that's the only goal you'll miss out on most of the power that you can gain from understanding the social dynamics behind attraction...
Back to the topic, I started wondering if I could use openers, body language, tension loops, negs & IOI's in everyday life to control interactions with random people. It started by chatting to the checkout lady. The guy at the corner store. An old lady waiting to cross the street with me. When I realised that every hot girl on earth is actually a human being 99% of the time - and I've been talking to human beings all this time - well the fear went away. I still feel butterflies, but who's afraid of butterflies?! (no offence to the lepedopterophobes out there)
Talking to people you have absolutely no interest in does not help your PUA. It helps your communication skills. As soon as you can make eye contact and have a 2min convo with somebody who isn't trying to gain something from you, you know that you've got the fear under control. I'm not advising that you stop approaching, just broaden your targets and literally approach anybody (not everybody, if you don't have anything to say to someone, it gets kinda weird hehe).
PS I'm from South Africa but was up in Chicago for a week at the end of July - It's a magnificent city, with infinite possibilities! Take your buddy to navy pier and chat to whoever is at the line at Haagen Dazs - That ice cream is liquid love and you're bound to have at least 1 female around if you feel like the "random ppl" thing isn't working. For formal sargeing - we only went to buddy guy's legends, but it sure was legendary.
Good luck!
