How To Be A Guy That Every Girl Wants

Hi Guys,
I love Monday's.
I know, I know nobody say's they like Mondays but I just finished this article and I wanted to get it to you because there is a TON of VALUE in this article.
So I'm going to talk about how to be BEST you that you can be.
Have you ever felt insecure about the way you look? Or wished a part of your face looked different? Whether you believe yourself to be ugly, average, or handsome we’ve all felt insecure about our looks at some point.
We live in a society that defines beauty to us through everything from advertisements to scientific studies about facial symmetry. Most of us grow up believing that how attractive we are as people has so much to do with our physical qualities.
As an image coach I see so many people out there who build their confidence solely on their outer appearance.
The perception we have of ourselves fuels our confidence, and those who build their worth on mostly physical appearance have their self-esteem set on a sandy foundation.
A Bit of My Story…

I would not call myself a great looking guy by today’s standards. I consider myself to be pretty average looking.
Back when I was in highschool, I envied the guy that all the girls wanted for his “hotness.” He was a handsome guy, and he didn’t even have to do anything to have all the girls talking about him. It just didn’t seem fair.
I thought I could never become that attractive to women, but during school I met a friend who was average looking like me, who all the girls loved. It gave me hope and I made an effort to surround myself with these type of guys to learn what was so attractive about them.
I realized that their personality and character was more engaging and interesting to the girls than looks alone could ever be, and so I started to work relentlessly on my own attractive qualities like making people have fun and laugh around me.
I didn’t just do this for the women, but I wanted to prove to myself and all the other average looking guys out there that there is no reason why we can’t be the most attractive guys in a room. Even without being physically “hot” we could be “hot” through different ways.
Lessons from My Journey…
Here is a summary of lessons I’ve learned through this experience:

• Really good looking guys tend to attract a lot of shallow women, who just want them for sex or validation. This may serve them for short term gains, but unless they have great character, they will rarely keep women past the sexual fling. I’ve know many guys who get laid often but are still left totally unfulfilled because they haven’t experienced a genuine relationship. They are rarely motivated to proactively build their character beyond their looks because they’re always tempted to fall back on what easily works for them. Thus, the type of women they attract usually lose attraction for them after sex unless she gets a lot of validation from being around the guy. The same goes for women who have been highly attractive all of their life - usually a lot of them lack depth. It’s rare to meet ones with a well-rounded personality because they usually get everything they want through their looks. And because they don’t have much else going for them, men use them as trophy girlfriends, often ending in shallow and broken relationships.

• Average looking guys have the potential to attract the same, if not higher quality women than the genetically gifted. They can consider themselves the lucky ones because they have areas they can build that most good-looking guys in this world will rarely be motivated to.

• Being physically “hot” only touches the first layer of attraction

• If you’re looking for deep attraction, it can only happen through an expression of who you are on the inside

• Everyone has infinite potential to become more attractive through different channels

• Humor – Ever notice that a group usually centers around the funniest guy? They say laughter is like a massage to a woman’s soul. Make a girl laugh and have fun around you all the time, and you’ll have the upper hand over all the lifeless guys out there. Stay away from self-deprecating, dirty, and obnoxious jokes. Some harmless teasing always goes a long way.

• Adventure – Secretly everyone wants someone to lead the way to something exciting and different. Create some positive disturbance in people’s routines and they’ll love you for adding some variety into their lives. For example, do some quick research to find the hidden gem restaurants your city or town is known for, then make it a little event by touring all the hot spots.

• Intelligence – Intelligence isn’t just about knowing a lot of things, because most of it could be useless. But if intelligence is your strength, then take your girl or group of friends out to a fun context that will showcase it. For example, take everyone out to a trivia night at the bar and the girls will have a riot as you proceed to destroy the room with your knowledge. Caveat: just be careful with showcasing intelligence because it’s something that should only be revealed through people drawing it out of you, through questions or topics that are brought up in conversation.

• Wisdom– Wisdom only comes through experience and personal development. This is a natural after effect of going out there and pushing yourself past your comfort zones. If you have some life experiences under your belt, grab a bottle of wine and two glasses and take a girl to a quiet location to muse about your past stories, life, the universe, and everything. She’ll think you’re both romantic and extremely wise at the same time.

• Ambition– A man who is highly ambitious and growing at exponential rates will always feel like one of the most attractive people in any group. He’ll find that he might have to “upgrade” his friends because he just can’t seem to relate anymore with his friends who are now on a path separate from his.  The kind of confidence that comes from self-development exudes in every interaction.

• Leadership - Ever have those moments …”Hey what do you guys want to do?” “Uhhh don’t know…what do YOU want to do? Grab the wheel and take initiative for the group, even go as far as organizing an average Friday night out for your friends - they will thank you for it and the women will remember it.

• Body – You may not have a face that can grace the cover of Vogue, and there is little you can do about it. But you can work on sculpting your body to become more attractive. Work your body hard and show it off with some fitted clothing, or set a beach date. It showcases your discipline and willpower, not to mention women will find it sexy.

• Fashion – The way you dress can transform you from being seen as a dork to a stud. Build a style that reflects every quality that you want to express and make sure that never leave the house without looking your best. A great ideas it to go shopping with your female friends and give each other feedback on outfits. It’s awesome having a female perspective and they love the male perspective as well. I take it very lightly and try to make it fun by giving girls ridiculous outfits to try on and taking pictures of them doing silly poses.