Girlfriend & PUA at same time
Yo im new to the website, but have been reading PUA stuff for the last couple of months.. Now ive got to the point where a girl i like wants to be my girlfriend, and im cool with that but at the same time i dont wanna leave this PUA lifestyle, i like picking up women getting their phone numbers and stuff and im scared that if i go out with this girl and stop playing "the game" ill lose my skills and will be back to square one. What should i do?
There's a few books out there on relationship management, they include advice on how to get women into 3somes and how to have open relationships with multiple women, and have all of them be ok with it. But, I haven't read any of them so check out the lovesystems web page and buy one.
in the mean time, u dont have to stop approaching just because u have a gf. u can still practice openers and whatever else but do it as being social and not trying to pick them up. ur just a social guy that likes meeting new and interesting people. if anything that should turn ur gf on. or u can tell the girl that u really like her but ur not ready for a relationship just yet. keep it friends with benefits and then u can talk to other girls. let me no what works
If your trying to do pickup and your still developing your skills the last thing you want to do is get into an exclusive relationship.
After being in the community for 6 months and 800 sets I got into an exclusive relationship with a bisexual female. It was a great relationship and we would even sarge together. We had a couple of threesomes and even a foursome (3 chicks and me) from cold approaches but I lost all motivation to go out and sarge without her.
Most, if not all guys that get into the community and have a girlfriend along the way are never to be seen again.
If your not satisfied with your skillset and want to continue to get better you need to have your freedom. This is not to say that you don't still date her but you have to make it clear that your not ready for a serious relationship at this point in your life.
You have to be firm on this and not make any concessions. Let her know that you like spending time with her and that you are going to miss her if she decides to stop seeing you but your just not ready for a serious relationship.
This will be hard for you to do, trust me, i've had this talk more than once but if she likes you she will stick around.
I hope this helps.
Asmokindeal
Okay I'm new so it's pointless posting on a thread that's half a year old -
I think your approach to this situation should depend on what you want from PUA. If you don't yet know what you want in life you risk getting seriously hurt, confused or mislead by abusing your newfound skills.
If you want to practice pickup to become the best seducer in the world, DON'T go for a relationship! If you have dreams of meeting and wooing the perfect girl, DON'T settle for second best. If you joined up and sarged with the aim to get a girl, then you have achieved your goal!
What I'm saying, is just be sure you know what you want, then it's all good
I have to agree with Jynx here, know exactly what you want, and I can tell anyone who is going for the PUA path, shouldn't and wont settle for second best, if you found her, you can find many other amazing girls... so just relax the relationship thing a bit, and live your OWN life.
