Bhart90's Journal
Friday March 13, 2009
It's first hour, and I am just thinking about all of the things that could of happened. Of course they didn't but still. With every rejection, raises your chance of an acception. I mean, I have learned more every single attempt. Some women will percieve as mature, and ready for a relationship, and then when it happens, they aren't as ready as it once seems. I am on Day 4 on "Rules of the Game" by Neil Strauss. Some of my high school friends found out, and merely made fun of me. I guess they have some room, considering I am in high school, and almost ALL of this stuff is direceted for older, more mature men. I don't care. This is just helping me preare for what will come in the future. A head start if you will. Prom is coming up in a month and some change. The girl I was planning on asking made it very clear she hates prom. So, that ends that, I will probably go So-Lo. Doesn't bother me, never been to a dance as well. A lot of people don't know I can dance either, so this whole ordeal will be a surprise within a surprise. Getting back to the main purpose of this entry. A gritty piece of information i have just learned is when you break up, in high school that is, things are NEVER the same. As much as you want to say you both can act "normal" it won't happen. Believe me, been here multiple times. So I am going to end my first Journal entry here. When I come to more realization and think more information needs to be submitted, I will do so.
-ßrenden
Tuesday March 17, 2009
First hour once again. Note to self and anyone reading this; don't take the class called "Senior Seminar" or any variation of those two words. Boring and completely unecessary.
Back to the main purpose of my journal entry.
Almost 100% of the human race is two-faced. You may not know it, but in some way, shape, or form, you act differently around people. I am one to talk. I long to become an actor so my job is to put on a different face, but not like this.
I have come to the realization that the internet is practically everyone else's other side is the internet(Myspace).
Why is that? Do people feel more comfortable over the internet? Maybe they feel safer, knowing they can get away with saying or doing practically ANYTHING. And then when you meet the face to face, you are decieved. It's a completely new person. I have given up all hope for this girl, this child! In a way I want to thank her. Thank her for teaching me a lesson. You can't make a final judgement until you meet that individual in person.
Thats what I said in a post. I practiced chatting online, texting and the phone and I'm decent at all 3 three but I'm a blur when face to face come about....
ok for example *(this is word for word)
3/17/09
her: Whats up babe
me: Umm just left county line going to my moms lol.. Why? wats up with u? Lol
her: all snuggled up and cozy doing some homework
me: Wow all u need is some hot coco, speak of the devil im gonna stop & get some..... yummy!
her: Ya I need someone to cuddle with me and watch a movie and fall asleep : )
me: Well I gotta get up in the morning but if its kool with u, i could drop off some hot coco and chill for a little bit
***Wat I should have said after I thought about it ("don't be getting any ideas, ur just teasing me") but I didn't!!! I was a tool!***
her: Well i would absolutely love that but im finishing up a paper for my class tomorrow
me: Ok thats kool like i said I gotta get up in the moring anyways, 30 mins tops... Wats the paper on, history again
her: A play called A DOLL HOUSE lol
her: We really need to hang out soon tho
me: Well I hate my place lol... & my next day off is friday & ur probably chillin with ur friends so...
her: Noo they arent going to be home : ( ill be lonely
me: Why? does it have to do with the weddin...
her: Her man is coming back in town so she has to go meet up with him yay!!
me: Well i gotta get up in the morning for my grandfather & i close at work tomorrow, so im going to sleep lol, tired cause of sis's court... Sweet Dreams... lol
her: Goodnight baby
***wat went wrong is I think shes scared or un comfortable of face to face, maybe thats the game I should start and only play, face to face***
yeah... you didn't tease her at all there... teasing women is fun. The internet is a totally different ball game then face to face. Texting too, but at least there's some degree of personal interaction over text. Have you ever called someone you normally text a lot to chat? the first few seconds there's a real palpable tention you need to release immediately to make the conversation flow smoothly. People change their entire personality on the internet. Therefore, avoid IM like it's the devil.
Randy, don't miss opportunities to tease women... I'm guessing since this girl seems like she's practiced stringing men along she can take a lot. Of course, I'm making a lot of general assumptions based on just a little bit of her dialog... but still, who tells a person they want to cuddle and then immediately denies them?
you didn't do a bad job with the false time constraint on the dropping by... that was pretty genius actually... next time try a small neg first. Like "well I would cuddle with you but you smell bad... besides, I have to wake up early tomorrow, but I could drop by for a half an hour or so... just spray on some febreeze." it's a good example of what a like to call a qualificiation sandwich. Disqualify, Qualify, Disqualify.
Thanx! bro I really thought the time constraint would do it too, but like the idea of winning me over first. This why I put the comment up there "***Wat I should have said after I thought about it ("don't be getting any ideas, ur just teasing me") but I didn't!!! I was a tool!***" That "smelling bad" neg is hard core lol... When I first discovered this neg theory I felt powerful but soon after realized they need to be softer...
I've found a lot of times the really hard ones go over well. Usually because the person realizes you're just joking... just don't take it too far. I opened a set at the boathouse (it's a place by ASU) and I started talking to the waitress and the person she was serving. The waitress was really kool but the other girl was HB10 so she had an attitude. I told her she was a stupid bitch and I hated her... but I was smiling when I did it... immediately afterwords she was a little bit warmer to me... I wasn't really negging the girl either I was just upset with the way she was acting... The point of the matter is you can say whatever you want as long as you do it right.
