Field Rreport Number 1
Online Sarge
I sent a message to a HB7 stating that "I am looking for something different, hope to find someone more than just the cookie-cutter girl looking for a generic cookie cutter boyfriend, I hope your not another internet phantom"
Got a reply saying how different I was, we chatted for 3 x 20min sessions on MSN building comfort about our mutual interest in the tarot/spiritual things. She sends me links to tarot sites and meditation videos, I fluff and pretend interest. Once comfortable enough I asked to meet in a well known local bar (no chance she could not know about it) and got a day 2.
On meeting I kino'd like crazy from the first moment, Hug to say hello, and hand on her back guiding her in to the venue. I take her hand and walk her to the bar, I order for me but not for her - she gives me the money to cover her drink.
I sit too close, legs touching and hands brushing everytime I make a gesture. I'm a touchy guy so no lack of confidence here on my part.At some point she notices that I'm stroking her leg. She comments on it, but doesn't pull away.
We sit, we fluff, I stroke her leg, I take her hand again. 25 mins in she was stroking my fingers and had them in her mouth at one point. I lean back, it doesn't impress me. She lays down on the chair and rests her head looking up at me like we're in bed together. I lean in, she looks at me like she has no idea whats going on, we kiss.
We fluff for 10 minutes more, I order another drink.
I call it a night, I have work in the morning - but I'm pleased to have met with her in real life, we kiss again. lots. The police pull up behind us in the car park and I make a show of performing for them (pushing her up against the car and making out like crazy, saying "if we're gonna geat arrested lets make it for something worthwhile"). I make a point of keeping my hands off her tits though. After 5 mins I tell her I have to go, and she better drive off before the police gert her number plate.
She texts me every day for a week, saying how she cant believe I didn't go for her tits and told her how "I think we both need to call it a night". Like a moron I text her back each time, I like this girl and dont want to lose her. Sex with her has become important to me.
3 days later I text her and invite myself over ("How about I come over for coffee tomorrow night?"_ She says yes. I go to her house, we got straight down to "dry humping" following the hello kiss, but her kids kept waking up and interuppting us, I odnt like the idea of her thinking I'm just out for sex no matter what, so I dont Full Close even though she has her top off and jeans unbuttoned. I let the whole thing drag on too long (5+ hours) then I make my excuses and leave
Two days later she departs for Spain, no contact for 2 weeks. 4 days after her return I still get no contact. I text "Hi, good holiday?" and still no reply 2 weeks later. This one is a bust.
What I learned: 1) Confidence is a winner - I went at the date like I knew she would love me touching her and she did. 2) If you dont F Close when she's ready you have blown your chances.
