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Im moxie from , im 28yrs old and I have committed the ultimate sin; I have let an ex-girlfriend practically crush my inner game. I am seriously at the lowest point in my life, I know this because not even when I had cancer did I feel this depressed.  This site is kind of giving me life I really admire J-dog because he’s seems to have it all together at least the part that really counts (social interaction w/ friends and especially the opposite sex).

I’m  really bummed out that a girls can have so much control over me, ( then again I have few friends so a girlfriend is a pretty big part of my social circle) I know im stronger than that so I’m really trying to get out of this hellish funk. Thanks J-dog for all the great info on this site it really does help, especially a guy in my situation.  

Hey Moxie.. thanks for sharing. It's normal to feel in a funk when a girl breaks up with you, especially if you were together for a longer time.

I just wrote up a couple of articles that might help you out:

Dealing With Approach Anxiety

Having Leverage On Yourself - Some Thoughts on Motivation.

I'm glad that you are getting a lot out of the website.. it's more of a passion of mine to provide this for everyone, rather than a business.

Of course because it's not actually how I earn an income (maybe in the future) I can't always dedicate as much time to posting on the board as I would like to.

I thank everyone for keeping the forum active, and especially for supporting each other!

Cheers.. J!

Hey sebbilah (Jason).. Very cool that you post on here from Holland! What you are doing is great, and yes 2-3 days in the field is great practice, especially when opening 12 sets in one day. Keep at it.. as it really is early days for you so far, and it's important to realize that you are doing well. Keep making a note of what you are doing well, and what needs to be refined more.

Just one think to note, is that any time you are getting responses like, "Why are you asking us this?" or "Why are you telling us that?" It's because they feel like what you are talking about is a little out of place, or you might also be sounding to rehearsed, and recited.. therefore not real and sincere. In the latter case they wonder what your agenda is.

To get around those responses find ways to make what you are asking or talking about relevant to the 'context' of the situation/surroundings. For example if you are passing then on the street you might be..

"Hey sorry to trouble you.. this will just be a minute I promise" (in a brief instance they will usually look you up and down, and notice you are non-threatening & hopefully think you seem cool enough to let you continue)

"What do you think about a guy who is a gemini?"

(don't give then really enough time to respond)

"You see I just got off the phone with my friend, and he told me the weirdest thing.."

(roll into your story/opener)

This is just an example to give you the gist of it, but what you will notice is the little things that seem to make the conversation socially acceptable.. relevant! Also the implication that you're not going to hold them to ransom, as you just need a quick answer.. or you could use verbal/non-verbal false time constraints.

Good Luck, and thanks for joining.. J! 

Everyone needs to burn this into their mind! ..thanks Brady.

...FLIRTING WITH WOMEN IS FUN...

-bradyhuang

Big shout out to everyone who posted on here if I didn't manage to reply back to you personally!

Thanks and welcome going out to..

• l3eloved
• infamy (liverpool)
• m4gmatic
• swedishpua
• tkdlover79
• pram (Alec)
• milesreid
• monkeykilla
• dompedro
• 16volt
• ineedattention

Waddup players and pimps and hoes.

I'm very new to the game and i just want to meet the girl of my dreams ...lol....sounded so gay but true.

I traveled everywhere, and im just tired and just want love in my life. I really hope something will go down and ill meet someone great....

Im 21 and i love europe because i guess theres not really a lot of jdogs, matadors, and mysterys running around here getting all the ladies so thats great for me, more practice but so little time

Hey JDog -

I just finished watching the first season of Pick-Up Artist and it was awesome. 

I'm 23 years old, Former Marine, and have been living overseas for the past 4 years doing counter intel and security for Embassies and even have worked with Condolleeza Rice in the Bahamas and Singapore -(Thought I'd throw that in there)..  Being overseas is a totally different atmosphere than being in the states.  I come home about once a year and last December I ended up coming back to Atlanta to experience A Town - Man was I suprised on how much harder it was to pick up women without being able to throw the "I'm a diplomat" line or even in the military.  Nobody cares in the States... 

I first came across David Deangelo and started learning his material - Intrigued and wanting more I read "The Game" by Neil S. and then came across Mystery - Then of which I obviously just finished PUA Season 1 and you stuck out more than any of the other instructors..  Not to be gay, but I think it was because of your style..  I'm into the hip hop scene and actually do dance competetions but I really liked your style and actually started looking into brands such as Monarchy, Affliction, ect...  You pull it off well... 

I'm currently working in Burkina Faso which is in West Africa and they speak french here.  As much as I would like to purchase your program, it would be pretty much useless here for me at the moment so you're prlly just going to have to wait until I get home in February to get another customer! 

I just wanted to stop by and say that I was impressed and motivated by you to learn the skills that you have..  You will be seeing and hearing more from me so keep in touch!

- Molt

Hey guys. I am sunslayer, also known as sun or sunny sometimes. I got into PUA by learning the Mystery Method about three years ago. I became an opening machine, and was well on my way to becoming a skilled PUA when disaster struck, I got very ill, and had to leave the game for a couple of years. 

But now I'm back. I was off so long that I basically had to start over. I reconnected with my wing Asmokindeal, and we've been going out most nights to get back up to speed. I know a few other local PUA's around Phoenix. I'm concentrating on indirect game, so I can land 10's. My goal is to eventually be able to pick which women I date, instead of just settling for the ones who choose me. I just keep on going day after day, knowing that I'm slowly improving.

sarge on friends!

molt msg ? I so wanna do that but I have some shit to go through to get that. Also I stopped using the im a marine line.And it DOES work in some places just dazzle up your mos a bit.My brother used to do that everytime we went somewhere,oh my brother is a marine I told him to stop cuz sometimes it does work against you. especially as a marine you get the conversation about killing people.

Hey there!

You guys won't believe it! The weirdest damn thing happened yesterday! I was cruizing the net at work, getting some info on a company we're about to buy, and I ran into AskJDog... This is by far the most relaxed, straight forward and down-to-earth social skills site I've seen. (I won't call this a PUA site, because this is not about an art immitating the life of someone with more game than you)

I'm JynX, a 24 year old white guy from South Africa working on his social life for the sole reason that the better you get at something, the more fun you have. I have been using some of the structures and routines available online for the past year, but the limiting issue was always that you end up with a feeling of "What now? I don't know which story is supposed to follow this one? If she lifts her hand, i must scratch my ear" etc. It was anything but natural, and my "game" actualy took a knock from it.

Being an engineer too, I have re-started my search, looking rather for conceptual help and the basics behind more succesful interactions. If I understand why something works, I can apply it in a totally original way, with material from my life and get much better results than in any pre-meditated situation.

So this is my HI to all'yall (yup, I've been to Texas), hopefully I'll be able to learn from you guys and add a different point of view to your knowledge base as well.

PS - did you feel the energy in the opener? That's how you get past a hook point with ease, look&sound like you love what you're about to share.  

Since I have the attention span of a small child on Christmas morning, I'm going to keep this short a sweet.

I go by M.  I'm a 25 year old female from So Cal.  About 5 years ago, I got into all of this.  One of my male friends said that he was tired of me giving him all these sob stories about different men I was dating, so he opened my eyes to different things and got rid of my sticking points.  I haven't looked back since.

For the foreseeable future, my goal isn't 2.5 kids, a house with the white picket fence, a dog, and all of us sitting around a campfire making s'mores and singing Kumbaya... What can I say other than, that's just not me.  I enjoy social dynamics and meeting new people.

Hey Jdog and all,
Thanks for the free advice you have provided. I take no convincing that the concepts in your video work with women. The problem I have is 1) approach anxiety because of 2) getting past my opener(keeping the conversation going). I believe the way to solve this is by memorizing more stories and antidotes and  presenting them in an animated passionate way? I guess I lose my nerve and the girls can sniff that out very quickly.
I will continue to read and learn from all parts of your website and feel strongly that I am committed to being a AFC no longer. Any advice would be great but I am low on bucks and thus can nil afford personal coaching at this time.  I am unemployed and living in Portland Oregon. No shortage of women of beauty  here to be sure. Again thanks for the inspiration.
Sincerely,
Trevelyan

Trevelyan,

Maybe this thread would help you - Open in your sleep. 
Enjoy

Hey I'm Steve

I come from South-East London, England and I am 25 years old.

I produce electronic music, rap, sing and write songs under the name Cyrius, and my full-time job is as a Senior Youth Worker. I came to this site to be part of the pick-up community and share and learn as much information as possible. I learnt about this community from the VH1 show and wanted to know more so I started researching it on the internet. In the last few months I have learnt so much and everytime I go out I try different techniques to improve my game. I used to be so bad at talking to women I've never met and now I feel so much more confident. I would love to become great at pick-up and teach others, and I have already passed on my knowledge so far to my closest friends who definitely have benefited from it.

I have a background in Psychology as I studied it at degree level so the theories behind attraction absolutely fascinate me. I've had long-term relationships in the past but now I just want to enjoy myself and meet the girls I want to meet and not just the ones that are attracted to me.

A big thank you to you Jdog, Mystery, Lovedrop, Matador and all the other venusian artists as you have opened my eyes to so much.

This is not just about getting girls this is about changing every aspect of my life.

Hey guys

I just found this page - after making a different post last night - so heres take 2, lets see if I can get the right place this time.

My name is Kassady, Im 18 and I live in London. I've only known about all this for a few months now, still dealing with approach anxiety - got a small number of unsuccessful approaches behind me.

I stumbled upon this sight after a friend was telling me about 'The Pick-up Artist', and I gotta say its cool to see some people less obsessed with routines and canned material - completely understand the value of that stuff, but it makes me really uncomfortable using it. I like the focus on building positively on yourself as opposed to manipulation - and the view that with the right attitude you can pursue the life you want in general - getting laid is only a small part of that.

I'm here to meet cool, like minded people - got any newbie drills/missions to try out - I'm all ears, I need to start getting proactive now.

Cool everyone, glad to be here
-Kassady*

Hey Jdog and all,

I'm from Turkey, 24 years old. Trying to learn some pickup methods. I just had long distance relationship once in my life. I prefer one night stand, don't like long distance relationships. I'm a graphic designer.

I've just begun to play the game.

Cheers

My name is Curren, 20 years old, I'm in college in LA and I joined because I want to learn how to increase my approach with women. I wouldn't say I'm awful but I definitely need work. I think my biggest problem is I can't close very well, and I'm a huge critic on myself. This is really the first time i've actually been in the field because i had girlfriends all throughout high school and the first year of college. Now that i'm single and in college, i'm finding it hard to meet women i'm really into, or just women to fool around with in general (excuse the primal side ha). So here i am, just lookin for tips and methods to learn to become more noticeable at parties and such. 

Lates.